Gender, Ordination, & Ministry (part 1 of 3)

I’ve been reflecting these last few days on the ordination of women, and I believe I have approximately three posts worth of material: (1) biography, (2) history, and (3) theology. This post will be part 1 of 3: biography.

My Biography (of Authority)

What does a 33-year-old, white male’s biography have anything to do with the ordination of women? Well, at the very least, I want you (the reader) to know a bit about my story and from where (and whence) I am writing about women’s ordination.… Continue Reading

On Parenting & Letting Go

[the juxtaposition of the title of this post and this stock photo is hilarious]

My wife and I (loosely) followed the E.A.S.Y. philosophy when each of our three children were born. Eat, Activity, Sleep, and You time. The gist, or at least my takeaway, of the philosophy is this: resist the temptation to get stuff done while the baby is asleep. Instead, sleep (especially early on), read a book, pray, workout, crochet; whatever activities you most enjoy, do those in your downtime and let the dishes pile up in the sink (and save them for your spouse!).… Continue Reading

Raising Girls (& Wild Boys)

My friends know that I am borderline obsessed with developmental psychology, especially as it relates to parenting boys and child development in a fallen world. This is a brief reflection from Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff’s book, “Raising Girls, All You Need To Know About.”

Re: 12-15 Year Old Girls’ Brain Development

Believe it or not, there are spiritual, emotional, and even physical reasons for these changes. God is still growing your daughter—even though, at times, it seems like someone much more diabolical has taken over.… Continue Reading

Parenting in the Grey Areas

Our 3 year old has recently started using the declarative instead of the interrogative mood. For those not willing to google my use of big words: he has started making statements rather than asking questions.

The tone of his statements are mostly quite sweet, and so this subtle behavior can easily go unnoticed. When a child loudly declares his desire in a fit of rage we generally recognize as parents that we don’t give in to the demand of terrorists toddlers.… Continue Reading

Help Paul, Help You: Hiring & Being a Qualified Pastor

Please take a moment and consider again the qualifications for a pastor:

The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?Continue Reading

Regain & Rethink Your Adult Authority: The Blessing of Christian Discipline

Our 1 year old is all over the place, and for the most part we welcome this new mobile intensity.

Let us sleep through the night and we’re game for most anything he gets into. This morning, this thought, brought me to my favorite coffee mug.

The Mug

Jodee bought me the best Harry Potter inspired, hand maid stoneware mug not too long ago. The struggle is, now that the little man is into everything, every end table, coffee table, and, with a little more ingenuity, every table and counter in the house is within striking distance.… Continue Reading

Train Up A Child

I just heard from the other room my 3 year old son tell my wife, “I’ll protect him!” This is a pretty common phrase around here and he’s an awesome little boy, but I don’t want you to believe for a moment that he’s an exception to the rule (you know the rule: toddlers are insane and unruly little monsters).

My super sweet 3 year old has plenty of teachable moments and is growing up every day. He learns from his (many) mistakes, sinful dispositions, and everything else that comes with being a 3 year old.… Continue Reading

Childlike vs. Childish

child·like adjective (of an adult) having good qualities associated with a child.

And…

child·ish adjective of, like, or appropriate to a child.

No need to wax poetic about this distinction. One of the many goals of parenting, perhaps maybe the most broad and fundamental of all goals, is to help your child distinguish between childlike behavior and childish behavior. One of the most difficult things to discern as a parent is when a child is being a kid and when they’re being wicked.… Continue Reading

Toddlers, Grocery Store Fiascos, & Bedtime

Grocery shopping at the super store is a pretty brutal experience. Throw in a few under-5 children and the blanks in your mad lib shopping adventure multiply. We’ve all been there, either as an innocent (or quietly judgmental) bystander, or as the butt of the “your parenting skills suck” glare. And this is only the public parental shaming.

Many times a day we shame, compare, and lament to ourselves all of the many shortcomings we experience as parents moment by moment.… Continue Reading